HOW TO STOP FIGHTING WITH YOUR FAMILY

HOW TO STOP FIGHTING WITH YOUR FAMILY

Boys fighting over their toys in the living room with their sister watching.

Our #1 hack to stop family fighting? Clarity in communication! Being intentionally clear with how you communicate is critical for avoiding misunderstandings. Ambiguous or vague language can lead to confusion, frustration and conflict.  

Here are some tips for speaking clearly: 

  • Be concise. Don’t use unnecessary words. Say exactly what you mean using as few words as possible.   
  • Avoid ambiguities. Don’t use words or phrases that can have multiple meanings. Be specific. 
  • Define unclear terms. If you use a word or phrase open to interpretation, take the time to explain exactly what you mean. 
  • Watch your tone. Even if your words are clear, your tone can alter the meaning. Make sure your tone aligns with your words. 
  • Give examples. If you are making a general statement, back it up with specific examples or analogies to illustrate your point. 
  • Check for understanding. After communicating something important, ask if you were clear or if they need any clarification. 
  • Adapt your language. Use words, analogies and explanations appropriate to the listener’s age and background.  
  • Be positive. Negative phrases, sarcasm or passive aggression can obscure meaning. 
  • Make eye contact. Look at the person to gauge if your message is being understood. 
  • Avoid distractions. Background noise, other people or multitasking can cause critical details to get lost. 
  • Follow up. Circle back after important conversations to answer questions and prevent miscommunications. 

Speaking clearly takes effort, but it also prevents many issues stemming from vague or ambiguous communication within families.  

Taking the time to thoughtfully craft and deliver clear messages shows respect and care for loved ones. 

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